Q&A: How Do I Deal with Bullying in the Professional World?
I used to think that leaving high school and entering into the professional world would mean the end of childish bullying, but other people keep proving me wrong.
The latest instance that had me questioning how it is that some people just never mature after high school came from an entrepreneurship/digital marketing Facebook Group that I participate in.
A group member, a young man who couldn’t have been over 21, asked a question about starting an agency. From the way the question was worded, you could tell that he didn’t have much experience and was just looking for a way to get started. That’s okay. We’ve all got to start somewhere, and a Facebook Group—where people are supposed to educate, support, and inspire others—is a good place to start.
The replies to that post, however, were anything but educating, supportive, or inspiring.
Multiple members of the group jumped onto this post just to say that this man had no future in this career path, that he would never make it, that he was a failure and might as well quit now.
For the sake of anonymity, I didn’t provide any identifying information or screenshots, but I will say this: The internet remembers, and it’s easy to find information that exposes these bullies for what they are: phonies.
I clicked on their public profiles and found a bunch of posts that espoused the virtues of providing value and helping others to succeed. Yet, here they were bullying a young man who was asking for help in a private Facebook Group.
It all just reminds me of being in middle/high school again. Kids are experts at putting others down to make themselves feel superior. Trust me, I would know because I was often the target of bullying. Unfortunately for all of us, some people carry this attitude over into the professional world.
However, if there’s one good thing that came from being bullied in school, it was my ability to drown out the negatives and push forward. I recognize that there will always be people who don’t want you to succeed. It sucks, but it’s just a fact of life.
It helps to realize that if you’re confident in what you do, you don’t have to put others down to get ahead. The ones who bully you are the ones who wouldn’t know success if it bit them in the ass because they haven’t experienced it. So, what do they know anyway?Always absorb and try to learn from constructive criticism, but never let criticism make you question who you are and what you can achieve.